I have a Broken Heart. Can I get her back?
Dear Renee

I need your advice!  I have been going out with this woman who I met on the internet for about 7 months. She is the most beautiful, sexiest smartest sweetest woman in the world, but a few weeks ago she abruptly broke up with me.  She said she had to “officially end things” with her first love. since they never really broke up, before she could be with me. The only way she could love me fully would be to not have any thoughts of another man in her head.  The whole time, I kept pushing her and pushing her to come back to me, but then she said that she felt that she didn’t love me anymore and that made me very upset.  I said some things I really shouldn’t have said, and now she doesn’t even want to be friends anymore because of it…

My question? Is there anything I can do to fix this situation?  I need help! I can’t lose her… she is everything to me! She is the love of my life and I won’t give up trying to be with her.  Do you suggest I just leave her alone and give her time to think or try to talk to her about everything? I have a broken herat …Can I get her back?
Help! Thank you Mike

Dear Mike,

It sounds like she has been clear with you about her feelings, and your reaction just pushed her further back.  When we are hurt, we often say things we regret later on! When someone has, what I call, “A Passenger Remaining in their Vehicle”, there isn’t much you can do but honor her request and set her free to do what she needs to do.  I know it hurts right now, but often these things can be a blessing in disguise. You need to let some time pass and perhaps writing her a letter with an apology about the harsh words you spewed could open up a conversation to help you heal but even then, she may not come back.  Your pushiness has to cease since it makes you appear desperate and needy.

 Yes it is difficult and painful, but she won’t be able to love you or anyone if this man is still stuck in her heart! I must ask…7 months seems to be a long time for her to wait to tell you of the X she hasn’t gotten over!  Hmm… are you sure she was committed to you, or were you hoping to make her shift gears after dating you for a while?  Examine this issue because many people date someone even when there might be signs that the person is not available! Use this as a lesson to check out the phase someone is in before you give your heart away to soon! If you need support give me a call and be sure to tune into my online dating seminars available right here. You can learn a lot by examining your communication styles and learning more about yourself so you can move on to finding a partner that is on the same page as yourself in the future.  I’m sorry your hurting…breaking up can be tough, but you must learn from it and keep your heart open. I’m here to help! Contact me for a love design coaching session or take a class to get you back in balance my friend. Get info here or call me for a FREE 10 minute consultation: http://www.reneepiane.com/coaching_makeovers/tele_seminars.html

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