Too Soon for a Heavy Valentine’s Day?
Dear Renée, (Love Mechanic)
I am single and dating a few women casually. Most of my friends have a date for Valentine’s Day, and I am seeing a girl yet I don’t want to do all the romantic gushy stuff this soon in our relationship. Are there a few things I could do to keep her happy without going “Valentines crazy” on that night? I don’t want to spend a lot on her at this point, but keep her in the mix of my dating. I am not cheap but after only a few dates it seems silly to go all out since she is not my girlfriend. My single friends want me to hook up with them? Suggestions?
Dear Too soon for a heavy Valentine’s Day,
Well it that time of year again…Valentines Day and it can sometimes put people into a funky mood since they aren’t in love or with someone special. Count your blessings …Hey at least you have someone that you are dating and have some interest. In my Rapid Dating business this is a busy time of year and if you are single and reading this there are millions of singles looking for love! About your new friend… you want to acknowledge the connection without going overboard.
LADIES: Lighten up. Since I work with hundreds of men… it is just not a big deal for most of them. Just another day for Hallmark to make millions according to many of the men I talk with.
GENTLEMEN: For women Valentines Day still pushes some buttons even if we don’t like to admit it. Since you asked what to do you must like her, so here are a few suggestions for people who are just starting to date to do for Valentines Day without going overboard. Whether you’re a man or a woman a small thoughtful gift makes your day and you don’t have to spend tons of money:
1. Send a card that is funny and leave a small box of chocolates for your new friend
2. Put a few Hershey kisses at their door step with a single rose or flowers.
3. Call to say hello and that you were thinking of them.
4. Go to lunch instead of an expensive dinner.
5. You could discuss your thoughts and say “hey I like you but we aren’t at the Valentine’s Day Stages yet. But I am getting together with friends for a dinner if you’d like to join us.” Then your friends can check out your date and you can please everyone!
SINGLES! A few suggestions to create an amazing Day for yourself and other friends*Pre Valentine’s “Spreading the LOVE” Cocktail Disco Dance Party
If you are single come to my to connect with other great singles on Sat, Feb 13th from 7:30-1 am at the THE WINE PLACE in Marina Del Rey. It is a gorgeous place with great music benefiting those less fortunate in Haiti.
here is the link to the invite! http://newsite.reneepiane.com/pdf/prevalmixer.pdf
(All the info on this and other great advice on the site www.Renéepiane.com )
Get a group together and be a cupid! I suggest planning a gathering of friends (even a few) and each person brings a gift like a flower or chocolates and go and celebrate love and friendship together. You could initiate the gathering! Count your blessings and toast to the love yet to come. Tell each other what type of person you’re looking for and have your friend assist you in your search. When I was single I did this every year and I guess even now I am still gathering great people so come join us! It was called it the “LOVE CLUB” and we have done this ritual for years.
Don’t stay home alone and pout. If you have a fun group and don’t want to join the crowds, have everyone bring a dish over to your place and have a potluck and rent “When Harry Met Sally” “The Notebook” or other romantic favorites. Bring along an extra single friend who doesn’t know any one in your group and play cupid or get a group and go out dancing, bowling or to a play. Plan ahead!
Be in charge…Be your own Valentine!
There are many events and parties happening around town so check the internet and in local papers or plan your own.
Still Single? Suddenly Single? This month I am hosting my Cocktail Party Mixer
Two Love Seminars and a NEW Rapid NETWORKING event to help you connect! Please go to my site at: RenéePiane.com and see our listings. Get on our mailing list to get weekly updates on all our FUN events!
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