Dating Advice For Men: What Not To Do On The First Date

Feb 15, 2024 | Coaching, Dating Tips for Men, Renée Piane | 0 comments

The first date can be a nerve-wracking experience for anyone, but it’s crucial to make a positive impression. As a dating coach, I’ve witnessed common pitfalls that many men fall into during those crucial initial moments. In this article, we’ll explore some key things men should avoid saying or doing on the first date to increase their chances of success. 

1. Don’t Overshare Personal Information: 

While openness is important, oversharing personal information on the first date can be overwhelming. Avoid delving into deeply personal topics or sharing too much about past relationships. Keep the conversation light and positive, allowing a gradual unfolding of personal details as the relationship progresses. 

2. Avoid Checking Your Phone Constantly: 

Constantly checking your phone during a date sends the wrong message—it implies disinterest or distraction. Put your phone on silent and focus on the person in front of you. This not only shows respect but also enhances the quality of your interaction. 

3. Steer Clear of Controversial Topics: 

A first date is not the time to delve into controversial or sensitive subjects. Avoid discussing politics, religion, or any topic that might lead to heated debates. Focus on common interests and positive experiences to create a comfortable atmosphere. 

4. Don’t Brag Excessively: 

Confidence is attractive, but excessive bragging can come off as arrogant. While it’s natural to highlight your achievements, balance is key. Instead of listing accomplishments, share your experiences and what you’ve learned from them, fostering a connection through shared stories. 

5. Refrain from Overindulging: 

Whether it’s food, alcohol, or anything else, moderation is crucial. Overindulging can create an uncomfortable atmosphere and give the impression of lack of self-control. Enjoy the moment without excesses, ensuring the focus remains on the connection between you and your date. 

6. Avoid Being Overly Critical: 

Constructive criticism has its place, but the first date is not it. Avoid being overly critical about your date’s choices or actions. Instead, focus on positive aspects and find common ground. Positivity creates a welcoming atmosphere for future interactions. 

7. Don’t Rush Physical Intimacy: 

Respect personal boundaries and avoid rushing physical intimacy. Pushing for more than your date is comfortable with can create discomfort and potentially ruin the connection. Allow the relationship to develop organically, ensuring both parties are on the same page. 

8. Refrain from Talking About Exes: 

Discussing ex-partners on a first date is generally a red flag. It can make your date feel uncomfortable and raise questions about your readiness for a new relationship. Keep the conversation focused on the present and future, leaving the past where it belongs. 

9. Don’t Be Late: 

Punctuality is a sign of respect. Being late to a first date can give the impression of carelessness or a lack of interest. Plan ahead to ensure you arrive on time, setting a positive tone for the evening. 


Navigating the first date can be challenging, but by avoiding these common pitfalls, men can increase their chances of making a positive impression and creating a foundation for a potential relationship. Remember, the key is to be genuine, respectful, and present in the moment. 

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