As a Relationship Reinvention expert, I get daily calls and emails from people in a lot of pain after a breakup or a divorce. When your relationship suddenly ends, people often get so sad and stuck, and often, they don’t want to let people know how much they are hurting. The doubt and fears creep in and you feel stuck. Although a breakup may have been long overdue, it’s hard for some people to ask for help since they are often embarrassed about their situation. The most important thing to do first is to choose friends or a coach that is trustworthy and unconditionally caring as you go through a difficult transition.
But remember, if you are going to re-enter the dating game, you need to get advice from people who are optimistic about dating and avoid people who can make you feel like dating is a nightmare! Let’s say “Misery loves company,” and you need more positive role models of love. In the last 30 years of working with singles in all phases, I have seen many people suffer too long and some never move on after a breakup. Many of my clients have held onto their anger and pain and built walls so high it’s almost impossible to help them to trust in love again. And typically, their friends often can’t give them advice for fear of hurting their feeling or lack of experience in the fast-paced world of the dating game.
It’s vital that the people they confide in can keep confidential information to themselves and provide a safe space to express their feelings. Be careful about sharing your deep feelings and pain with people who may not keep your intimate details to themselves. I can say that when you are in a heartbreaking situation, there are lessons to learn from each experience. In my book “GET Real about Love ~The Secrets to Opening Your HEART & Finding True Love,“ I share a step-by-step process to help anyone who is suffering to look at the love imprints of your family lineage and some of the blocks that you may not even realize you are holding onto. The processes in the book show you the path to healing the parts of you that often unconsciously stop you from believing in yourself and your love.
When you move in the direction and set new intentions to open yourself up to love again, the doors and people often magically support you. I talk with so many suddenly single people who are still ruminating over the past (even years after a divorce or breakup.) When you are not living in the present, time flies by, and suddenly, you realize something has to shift in your heart to regain the faith to keep forging ahead. Or you will keep meeting unavailable people and wonder what is wrong with you. My work helps so many people heal by examining their patterns and ultimately, they can shift to see that they had unconscious blocks in their way that kept sabotaging them. The only reason I know this is because I had huge blocks around trust after being betrayed by some of the men I dated and I thought I could change their ways! Sound familiar? After years of studies of the mind and reading many books and working with thousands of singles, I share the path I used to open my heart after having doubts about finding real love after seeing the pain of the many divorces and scandals in my family lineage. I saw so much suffering with close relatives that used to come to discuss their trials and pain in our kitchen when I was a little girl. I absorbed beliefs that destroyed my faith in love at a young age. What about you?
I honestly believe that those experiences led me to my first career as a cosmetologist and wedding consultant to help others to build their confidence and to look fabulous for their special wedding day. I often saw people who didn’t seem ready to marry and were pushed by their families to tie the knot! After over 30 years in the dating industry, some of my most important messages for people going through transitions are to:
(1) Acknowledge your Feelings:
The first step towards healing is to acknowledge and fully feel your emotions. It’s natural to feel angry, sad, or betrayed after a break up or divorce. Give yourself permission to grieve and process these emotions. Ignoring or suppressing your feelings will only prolong your suffering. Allow yourself to cry, journal, or talk to a trusted friend or therapist. Remember, healing starts with acknowledging the pain.
(2) Seek Support:
Going through a break up or divorce can be an isolating experience. It’s important to reach out for support from friends, family, or a support group. Surround yourself with people who uplift and understand you. They can provide the emotional support and encouragement you need during this difficult time. Sometimes, seeking professional help from a therapist or counselor can also be beneficial in guiding you through the healing process.
(3) Take Care of Yourself:
During challenging times, it’s crucial to prioritize self-care. Make sure you’re getting enough rest, eating nutritious meals, and engaging in activities that bring you joy. Take time for yourself by engaging in hobbies, exercising, or practicing mindfulness and meditation. Self-care helps to nurture your physical, emotional, and mental well-being, ultimately aiding in the healing process.
(4) Reflect and Learn:
A break up or divorce can provide an opportunity for self-reflection and personal growth. Take time to evaluate the relationship and learn from the experience. Reflect on what worked and what didn’t, and identify any patterns or behaviors that you want to change moving forward. Allow this experience to shape you into a stronger and wiser individual. Use it as a catalyst to redefine your priorities and goals in life.
(5) Release the Past:
Holding onto anger, resentment, or bitterness will only hinder your ability to heal and move forward. It’s essential to let go of the past and release any negative emotions associated with the break up or divorce. This can be achieved through forgiveness, both for yourself and your former partner. Forgiveness is not about condoning the actions or forgetting the pain, but rather about setting yourself free from the burden of holding onto those negative emotions.
(6) Set Goals and Create a New Path:
Once you have released the past, it’s time to look towards the future. Set new goals for yourself and create a vision of the life you want to lead. This can involve personal, professional, and relationship goals. Focus on building a strong foundation for yourself before entertaining the idea of a new relationship. Be patient with yourself and trust that you will find love and happiness again in due time.
(7) Embrace Change and Growth:
Change is an inevitable part of life, and going through a break up or divorce can bring about significant personal growth. Embrace the changes that come your way and allow yourself to evolve as an individual. Use this time to discover new passions, hobbies, or interests. Take risks and challenge yourself to step outside of your comfort zone. Embracing change can lead to incredible personal growth and an improved sense of self.
If you find yourself still in pain or suffering from a separation or divorce and are ready to Open your Heart to Love again, Contact Me and I promise I can help you to break free from the past and design a new future! It’s my passion and life mission! Let ignite your heart with the tools to regain your power and forgive the past.
- Only YOU can change your destiny and I can offer you the path to Create your New Love Story!
As a Relationship Reinvention expert, I get calls and emails every day from people who are in a lot of pain after a breakup or a divorce. When your relationship suddenly ends people often get so sad and stuck and often they don’t want to let people know how much they are hurting. The doubt and fears creep in and you feel stuck. Despite the fact that a breakup may have been long overdue, it’s hard for some people to ask for help since they are often embarrassed about their situation. The most important thing to do first is to choose friends or a coach that is trustworthy and unconditionally caring as you go through a difficult transition.
But remember if you are going to re-enter the dating game you need to get advice from people who are positive about dating and avoid people who can make you feel like dating is a nightmare! Let’s just say “Misery loves company” and you need more positive role models of love. In the last 30 years of working with singles in all phases iI see many people suffer for way too long and some never move on after a breakup. Many of my clients have held onto their anger and pain and built walls so high it’s almost impossible to help them to trust in love again. And normally their friends often can’t give them advice for fear of hurting their feeling or lack of experience in the fast-paced world of the dating game.
It’s important that the people they confide in can keep confidential information to themselves and provide a safe space to express their feelings. Be careful about sharing your deep feelings and pain with people who may not keep your intimate details to themselves. I can say that when you are in a heartbreaking situation there are lessons to learn from each experience. In my book “GET Real about Love ~The Secrets to Opening Your HEART & Finding True Love“ I share a step-by-step process to help anyone who is suffering to look at the love imprints of your family lineage and some of the blocks that you may not even realize you are holding onto. The processes in the book show you the path to healing the parts of you that often unconsciously stop you from believing in yourself and in love.
When you move in the direction and set new intentions to open yourself up to love again, the doors and people often magically show up to support you. I talk with so many suddenly single people who are still ruminating over the past (even years after a divorce or breakup.) When you are not living in the present time flies by and suddenly you realize something has to shift in your heart to get back the faith to keep forging ahead. Or you will keep meeting unavailable people and wonder what is wrong with you. My work helps so many people heal by examining their patterns and ultimately they can shift to see that they had unconscious blocks in their way that kept sabotaging them. The only reason I know this is because I had huge blocks around trust after being betrayed by some of the men I dated and I thought I could change their ways! Sound familiar? After years of studies of the mind and reading many books and working with thousands of singles, I share the path I used to open my heart after having doubts about finding real love after seeing the pain of the many divorces and scandals in my family lineage. I saw so much suffering with close relatives that used to come to discuss their trials and pain in our kitchen when I was a little girl. I absorbed some beliefs that destroyed my faith in love at a young age. What about you?
I honestly believe that those experiences led me to my first career as a cosmetologist and wedding consultant to help others to build their confidence and to look fabulous for their special wedding day. I often could see people that didn’t seem ready to be married and were being pushed by their families to tie the knot! After over 30 years in the dating industry, some of my biggest messages for people going through transitions is to:
- Be gentle with yourself as you are reinventing
- Be 100% honest with yourself and examine your dating patterns
- Write down all the people that you dated in the past.
- Was there a pattern of dating the same type of person over and over?
- Did you stay in a relationship for too long for fear of being alone and you weren’t fully present?
- Did you ever have any healthy role models?
- Have you healed from your breakup or are you still bitter or shut down?If you find yourself still in pain or suffering from a breakup or divorce and are ready to Open your Heart to Love again, contact me
I promise I can help you to break free from the past and design a new future! It’s my passion and life mission! Let ignite your heart with the tools to get back into your power and forgive the past! - Only YOU can change your destiny and I can offer you the path to Create your New Love Story!
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